“If its a good idea, go ahead and do it. It’s much easier to apologize than it is to get permission”
– Grace Hopper
In life, I have always sought permission first above anything else. It is what I learned during my childhood and I’m beginning to wonder whether or not this was a good lesson. I am realizing that my underlying “need” to seek permission/get approval from members of ‘authority’ who are quite often hot fucking messes. I believe that I tell myself that it is the “right” thing to do and/or that I would appreciate someone asking my own permission — but I am realizing more & more, that oftentimes, this is not how things work themselves out. And more importantly, that most people are going to tell you “no” simply because they can. So why not just dance around them and do what you want to do?
I don’t believe this applies all helter-skelter in the world of love and family but in business? Fuck these crazy folks and just do you. Especially when you have put in your time, effort and intelligence…and have had the door pushed back on you consistently.
The more I reflect on it, the more I realize how I need to stop using “being polite”, “needing approval”, “seeking permission”, or wanting to be the “good girl” to get in my way. I am WAY too powerful to hold my own damn self back. And if I am not being valued? GET THE HELL ON.
To drive home my point, read this excerpt from this really powerful article yesterday that resonated with me:
STAY WHERE YOU ARE VALUED
Learn to distinguish being used from being valued.
When you feel depleted, diminished, and discouraged, you’re being used.
When you feel enriched, empowered, and encouraged, you’re valued.
When your contributions are unseen, unmentioned, and unrewarded, you’re being used.
When your contributions are acknowledged, appreciated, and advertised, you’re valued.
Listen quietly to your heart, and you’ll know if you’re valued.
– See more at: http://goodmenproject.com/ethics-values/five-words-that-will-change-your-life-fiff/#sthash.3apnAKmD.dpuf